The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck By Mark Manson- Review

Mark Manson Book Recommendation
Mark Manson Book Recommendation

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Book Recommendation: The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck By Mark Manson.

I forget where I heard of this book before. Maybe it was last year, but I read a book recommendation about thinking outside the box. I’m always perusing through the self help section on Amazon so I decided to pick this one up. This is a book for those who are feeling stuck or unmotivated. This became a best book to read in 2016/2017 when it became a NY Times Best Seller.

Some background on the author, Mark Manson is a guy who made a living during the recession blogging, mainly about relationships, life and everything in between. He amassed a huge following and wrote a book that became a best seller. My life goal in a nutshell.

I read it front to back over the course of 3-4 days and it’s definitely a great book to read for anyone that needs a different perspective on things.

Mark describes himself as unreflective, unaware and an asshole but, through his blog and life experience, has become successful from just not caring. I initially thought this would be an introduction on how to be a person who gets what they want from doing what they want without regards to others but, thankfully, it’s much deeper than that.

He takes you on a journey, through his own and other well researched stories, about how we tend to create values and box ourselves in with those values. “Not Giving A F*ck” is basically about questioning those values and the importance they should have in your life. He implores us to ask how we obtained those ideals and whether they are values we should hold ourselves accountable for. There are “shitty values” that most people have and “healthy values” that help us in life to be better people.

I loved how he encouraged us to find meaning in our lives and think introspectively  and become conscious of our self awareness.

This is not a book on how to be more successful or how to get more out of life. It’s about thinking about the life you already have and questioning your values and meaning. I thought it was great for people like me that tend to overthink things. There was a section that discussed the benefits of just being content with what’s in front of you. So many people are constantly reaching, not able to enjoy what’s right here and right now. The most insightful part was about “Not Being Special,” and that is was OK to not be special. Constantly needing outside affirmation that you’re special is a recipe for discontent and unhappiness. Manson seems to find the solution to letting go and how to be happy.

My favorite quotes were:

“Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something”

This was part of the Failure/Success Paradox chapter that basically reaffirmed that you can never be successful unless you fail a significant amount at something. With each failure you learn, and that brings you to success.

“Life is about not knowing and then doing something anyway. All of life is like this. It never changes.”

This was part of the Do Something Principle. Sometimes we’re just so afraid of failing, we do nothing. Well, doing something is better than nothing.  Or we start something, get discouraged, and do nothing before we reach success.  I can definitely relate to that.

This book recommendation is perfect for people who either think too much, are not introspective  or lack control in their lives.

If you’ve read this book by Mark Manson and like this motivational book review, feel free to add to the discussion in the comments.

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I have a confession to make.  I am in debt.  I am in debt up to my eyeballs.  At this point I have almost 50K in student loans.  Me and my husband are also wasteful spenders.  We kind of already know this but also ignore it.  You name it, we spend on drinking, restaurants, unnecessary bullsh*t that we don’t need.  We have no real money because of our debt. So I picked up “The Total Money Makeover” By Dave Ramsey. I decided to make a review and summary on the financial advice that he gave.

So I picked up “The Total Money Makeover” because I love the topic of money and managing my money and wanted to see if maybe there was a better way to go about it. We’ll let me just tell you, at first I was skeptical some of the changes he suggested, like selling your car or getting rid of your car lease in exchange for a used fully paid car.  It seemed severe.  But I did the math and Dave’s formula for money success made sense! This review is going to cover exactly how Dave Ramsey did that.  And maybe it isn’t the fastest way, its likely the easiest and clearest way for the Average American.  Total Money Makeover is such a great book to read for financial literacy.

Key Highlights In This Review:

Debt Free- means no payments either for student loans/ car payments/ credit card etc.  Most people have this but Dave says “Imagine you didn’t have to pay those payments, how that would free up your income.”  In my opinion, he has a pretty decent though challenging system for clearing these debts. Dave Ramsey calls this system in Total Money Makeover-Baby Steps.

Budget- goes into some detail about eliminating wasteful spending and avoiding “Keeping Up With The Joneses” mentality.  Me and Hubby don’t really need to be going to the fancy restaurant every week and taking Snapchat pics titled “Love BAE!”  Yes, I indulge in that behavior.  I am one of those people.  Wasteful spending is probably the first place you can tackle any money issues.

Emergency Fund- Most people rely on credit cards if a large emergency were to pop up.  If a spouse loses a job or a major medical bill/car bill hits you unexpectedly.  My dad had always told me that you should have at least 6 months savings for this reason, so I knew this was good advice when I read it.

Saving for Retirement/Debt Free/Home Buying and Beyond-Dave’s math makes sense.  Once you no longer have to pay off debt, that frees up your income A LOT.  I actually haven’t gotten to this point yet but it all seems very solid.  It would be really nice to have the freedom to plan your retirement and maybe even save to pay your house upfront!  

Overall, “The Total Money Makeover” is recommended for others to get a grasp on their finances.  At the very least it should assist you with a plan to get out of debt. 

 “The Total Money Makeover did have some limitations.  

It’s really not going to be of any use unless you are willing to downsize/ change your lifestyle/ commit several years of your life to debt reduction/ if your spouse had a spending or gambling problem. 

I also thought that the ending was really rushed in terms of getting to major wealth.   Getting to the point of living off investments and no debts would require tremendous sacrifice for 15-20 years.  The last chapters doesn’t explain distribution of wealth well enough to feel obtainable. 

One last gripe in this review are that the stories that were used to support his theories and ideas.  He used about 30 stories.  I hope this isn’t petty, but there wasn’t enough minority representation.  It was mainly middle class White Americans with average or above average income who had  fallen into bad debt from their own misspending.   I’m Latina/Asian mix and the only representation of my race was a single Latina mom who had 2 kids:  Really?!  Come on, Latinos could have been better represented.  Also the stories with the single income family with homemakers also made me cringe, that’s also unrepresentative of a majority of families now. 

But overall it has great steps towards financial planning as well as financial responsibility.  It’s a great book to read for those just starting to get a grasp on their spending.

So there you have it, after reading this book, I was able to talk to my husband and use Dave Ramsey 7 baby steps to put a budget together and make a solid plan for knocking out that 50K student loan in 1 year as opposed to 5.  This was better than student loan refinancing that would still take 3 years at at least 3%.  I also realized that the mutual fund I had was useless if I was spending 6% interest a year on a 50K loan.  Cashing out and being broke is better than  stringing myself along with debt. Will keep you guys updated on my progress.  

If any of you have read this book, feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below. Let me know what you think about my total money makeover book review! The Dave Ramsey budgeting plan works! 

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