Fuckboy. My personal definition is that a f*ckboy is a guy who’s just fucking around with your feelings and is only interested in sex.
This is the millenial’s term for player, playboy, Casablanca, womanizer, etc. These types of men have been fooling women since the dawn of time with promises of sweet nothings and a trail of broken hearts in their wake.
I have no idea how these guys get so many women to fall for them and I have no idea why so many women find them attractive, but fuckboys seem to always be able to move on to the next one before we even had time to shed a tear.
I dated a f*ckboy once, it was both the most terrible and most fun relationship I had ever had. Of course it ended in drama and flames but it was what it was in the end. Fuckboys never stay. I dated one because I was naive and foolishly thought I could change him. I mean, if he could change, he wouldn’t have been a fuckboy.
Here Are The Tell Tale Signs Of A F*ckboy
- Has A Lot Of Women Who Are His Friends
They’re like a circle of hens but this is a huge red flag. Usually when you ask about them, he’ll tell you don’t worry, they’re just friends. Maybe they are, but with fuckboys, their next partner is usually just waiting in the wings for their chance. I don’t know what it is about them, but they always have a circle of female friends. The thing is that these ladies won’t be friends with each other, he and his friends will be the only link.
If you see him flirting, no, you’re not imagining it and you’re not being insecure and crazy.
- Had A Lot Of Dating Experience
The guy I dated lost his virginity at 13. Like, what the hell! A lot of fuckboys start their dating experience early so that by the time most girls hit the dating market between 18-25, they already have a leg up on you in terms of experience. Ever notice that they already know what to say and do to get your trust and interest?
On top of that, they start early, but they never stay with one girl that long. The guy I was with claimed his longest relationship was 2 years but in the grand scheme of life, that’s not that long. That’s just long enough for the honeymoon phase to wear out. And he had lost count of his partners. That really should have been red flag number 2. If you’re 22 and lost count of your partner’s, there’s something REALLY wrong.
- Love Bombs You
He’s obsessed with you in the beginning. Everything is amazing and you can’t believe you met a man who could treat you this good. Usually this is coupled with flattery and compliments. He’ll take you on exciting dates and get you gifts. He might say things like, “I’ve never met anyone like you before” or even use the “L” word to get you to fall in love with him.
This part of dating a fuckboy is the most addictive. Like a heroin addict chasing the first high, you’ll keep looking for the treatment he gave you in the beginning.
- Hot And Cold
Which brings me to my next point, you’ll find the periods of cold shoulder unbearable.
Why doesn’t he text me like he used to?
Why is he suddenly being secretive with his phone?
I feel like he’s distant…
What can I do to fix this?
These are the thoughts that will race through your mind as your fuckboy starts to make his way out to “greener pastures.”
If you’re lucky, his behavior might get hot again to dates that involve 3am booty calls or dates that are exclusively spent on your dime.
- All His Guy Friends Are Single And Fuckboys Or Fuckboy Wannabes
Like attracts like and a mega f*ckboy is very likely followed by other fuckboys or fuckboy wannabes.
These other guys are going to be approving of your fuckboy’s bad behavior, thus keeping him from being the good partner you wish he was.
The wannabes aren’t nearly as bad and might even make for a good shoulder to cry on when your f*ckboy screws you over. But these guys live by the “bros before hoes” mindset so I wouldn’t count on it. They’re more likely to cover for him while he’s out picking up other girls and you’re at home waiting for his text.
- Loves To Club And Party
Your f*ckboy and his playboy posse are definitely club lovers. That’s honestly probably where you met him in the first place. They’re a lot of fun to party with but the party doesn’t stop just because he started dating you. Chances are you’ll need to keep up with his party party lifestyle every day of the week or be concerned about the other ladies he could be meeting without your watchful eye.
When you tell him you don’t like when he goes to clubs without you, he’ll turn it on you and call you controlling.
If you’re a gal looking for the player experience, look no further than your local club. The nightclubs are teeming with them.
- Is Into Status Symbols
I never met a player that didn’t wear heavy cologne, drive a car he couldn’t afford and drop all his money into brand name shoes, belts, clothes and sunglasses.
I guess that’s one of the things that attracts women to them. Women love a man who can dress and presents himself as someone successful. The fuckboy is not without a high view of himself and is very capable of giving off a false impression of success by surrounding himself with status symbols.
Most likely he views his sexual conquests as status symbols also. The f*ckboy, lacking any self confidence or self-awareness, seeks outward symbols of value that he attaches to his own self worth. He’s constantly looking to hook up with the hottest girls because it makes him feel like he’s hot. And if you can’t fill his this role of being his human status symbol, don’t expect him to stick around.
These fuckboys are just playing games and aren’t worth the hassle of a broken heart. These tips are from every player I met and dated.
Changing a player into a man is impossible, many women have tried but his final destination is bachelorhood with a dog to keep him company.
So my advice to all the women out there reading this is to drop those f’boys. If you’re reading this and thinking, “y’know what, this sounds like __________. This sounds exactly like him,” then drop him!
Trust me, save yourself the heartache and find yourself a quality man for long term commitment.
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